“You never have to try to be yourself. If you’re trying, it means you’re being somebody else.”

I had the chance to sit down with the brilliant Danielle and Daniela of Get Rose Podcast to talk about the anxiety and pressure we put on ourselves to create the lives we want.

Whether we’re looking for the love of our lives, or building a business, or just trying to find work we love—it can be fucking exhausting.

There are some moments in life that just seem to click—like having coffee with a best friend. Hours fly by. Genius spills out of us. And we never have to try.

And then they are those other moments—the ones where we’re wondering, “Did I say the right thing? Did I do the right thing?” And we get super awkward and technical.

If we’re ever being technical, we have no idea what the essence is.

When we know our essence, our brand, life is a hell of a lot easier. Because we know the buttons we naturally push every time we’re successful and fulfilled.

And the cool thing is we can map those moments to figure out what we do without trying when we’re naturally successful.

Where our greatest strengths are. Where we’re most magnetic. Where things just flow

And Danielle and Daniela let me put them in the hot seat and even let me do some live workshopping to discover their essence on the spot.

Feel free to check out our spiritual and deep conversation above.