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We visionaries don’t often feel like geniuses. We usually grow up feeling—crazy, “too much,” different, emotional, sensitive.
It just seems like we can’t get ourselves to fit perfectly into the world or the containers in it. Like we’re yearning for something more. Something deeper.
So we become searchers. Seekers. We might travel the world. Or just move from place to place. Or jump from job to job. Or relationship to relationship. Or between hobbies. Or even between different ideas and passions.
Because we’re seeking. We’re looking for—something. Some place where we can finally feel at home. Where we don’t have to try or learn the rules or put on an act.
A place that just intuitively feels like us. Where we fit.
We’re just looking for a good container. One that can fully hold us—where we’re never “too much” or “not enough.”
I think we grossly underestimate the power of one really superb container. Because you can’t unsee what you’ve already seen. You can’t just go back to how things were before. When you know what it’s like to be fully contained—to be in a space as all of yourself—you can’t settle for what you used to.
And, honestly, that superb container could be anything. Anything. It could be one really, really great friendship. An incredibly supportive partner who just gets you. The perfect client. A fantastic new community. A morning routine that feels so nourishing. A jacket that makes you feel more like yourself than ever.
It doesn’t matter what that container is. Just a space where we feel like ourselves. And that changes everything.
I can definitively say that if I wasn’t married to Garrett, I wouldn’t be writing this post right now. Until our relationship, I don’t think I felt fully seen or validated for all of my gifts. It’s not that Garrett made me capable or worthy—I was always those things. But he believed in me. And made me believe in myself.
Superb containers make us believe in ourselves. In our genius. Because they help us to experience that genius in the first place.
If I tried to scoop water with my hands and drink it, a lot would probably fall through the cracks between my fingers. I probably wouldn’t get to experience it all. And it might not seem that nourishing.
If I chose a better container—let’s say a large glass—then I’d probably get to drink all of it. And be really satiated. Because I had a superb container.
The water itself didn’t change. But my ability to experience it and realize how amazing it is did.
That’s why we need superb containers.
Within six months of starting to date Garrett, I gave notice to leave my job. And I ended up in nutrition school and herbalism school. I ended up in psychic classes and energy healing training. I ended up starting this blog. Without really trying or planning for any of it.
Because I felt who I was. For maybe the first time ever. And, once we have one really good container, we know the essence we carry. And we start seeking out the other containers—the other opportunities—to carry that essence.
And we galvanize it. As we live more of our life in spaces that can hold us, we see more of ourselves. We know more of ourselves. And we stop settling for what we used to.
We no longer think we’re “too much” or “not enough.” We just know we didn’t fit the containers of our lives. And we go on to find ones that do fit.
We need someone or something to believe in us. To remind us that we’re not wrong or fucked up or broken. We need to believe in ourselves.
We visionaries see the world impeccably. But, so often, we can’t see ourselves or our genius. In a world where we’ve never quite fit, we often doubt ourselves. And feel like anything but geniuses.
So we need to be seen. One space that can fully see us. Maybe it’s that one friend who always knows when you’re upset. Or that one Facebook community you love checking in on. Or that one improv group that makes you feel like you belong. Or that one morning exercise that nourishes your soul.
You get to experience yourself. Your true self. And that’s all you need to get started.
Because, whether you realize it or not, you got to experience your own genius. And the more often you do that, the more you’ll start building more opportunities to experience it. Naturally.
I’m selective about who I tell new ideas to. And I build most of my week around really superb containers—luxurious daily morning routines, long meetings with Sherri, support calls with brilliant friends and colleagues, weekly therapy, and increasingly more work that I love.
Because the more often I’m in right fit containers (and not ones where I’m “too much” or “not enough”), the more I feel like a genius. And believe in myself.
But I didn’t start with hours of great containers like this. I started with a few people who believed in me. A few people who told me to stop apologizing for my feelings. A few people who listened to me. A few people who didn’t need me to explain myself.
I can’t imagine where I’d be if I never had that. But I can tell you I’d feel for sure that I was crazy, lazy, unproductive, and not a genius.
We need to lean into and cherish the superb containers in our lives. Hang out with those people more. Reach out for support. Build your weeks around them. Get vulnerable and be honest.
Even if we don’t have any yet, create our own. A morning routine that nourishes us. Or a Meetup group around a topic we love. Or a Facebook community championing a cause we care about. Or just reaching out to people you respect.
We don’t feel like geniuses by having the perfect life. All we need is one superb container. Just one space that can really, really hold us.
Lean into that space. Spend a lot of time there. Build other spaces that feel just like it. And watch it transform you. In ways you won’t even recognize at first.
You are a genius. You’ve always been a genius. You’ve just never had the spaces to hold you fully so that you could see and experience it. And then share it with the world.
Questions for Reflection:
*Answer in a journal, in the comments right here, or take it over to the Sacred Branding® Facebook group where we can support one another:
How do you become a genius?
— Have you spent most of your life feeling like the opposite of a genius? Maybe feeling crazy, “too much,” too emotional, too sensitive, just different? Have you felt like you’ve been seeking out the thing that would finally make you feel like you fit? Have you just wanted to find the job or city or relationship that just clicked and made you feel at home?
— Have you ever had any space, person, opportunity, or item of clothing that just felt really, really good to you? That made you feel more like yourself? What was it about that thing that felt so good? Do you still engage with it regularly?
— What if you are absolutely a genius, and all you really need is one superb container to experience your own genius? What if you just need someone or something to help you believe in yourself? What if you could build your entire life around containers that can actually hold you, so you fit and begin to feel more and more like a genius?