Yesterday was my birthday. My 28th birthday.
In some ways, that sounds so incredibly young. Like so much has already happened in my life. And all the people I associate with are so much older. I have a house, I’m in a significant relationship, I have the exact business I want, I’m usually in bed before 11. Shouldn’t I be 30 already?
But, in other ways, that sounds so old. When did I turn 28? Last I looked, I was just a kid playing in the sandbox. And, in the blink of an eye, I’m here. Life moves fast. So much can happen. And we have to remember to pause before it whizzes past us.
So, yesterday, I paused. When Garrett stayed home from work until 11:30 just to cook me a delicious pumpkin, squash, and brisket hash and have breakfast with me.
And I paused. As I sat in my bathtub—not just once—but twice, acknowledging that I can spend my days exactly as I want.
And I paused. As I typed up notes to a wonderful client who had a transformational session and who valued my work immensely.
And I paused. As I got on the phone with my incredible energy healer for a mind-blowing two-hour conversation that left me more empowered and validated than I’ve felt in a long time.
And I paused. As I sat at one of Boston’s top new restaurants to enjoy one of the most soul-awakening tasting menus with fascinating mocktail pairings.
And it was then, with a mouthful of lightly steam trout, shallots, orange blossom, and an exquisite fermented soybean paste, that I realized that I’m 28. I’m not too young or too old. I’m me. And I’m fabulously, undeniably happy. And I’m not going to apologize for it or try to downplay it anymore. I’m living the exact life I’ve always wanted. And I deserve it.
It was then that I decided to give myself a birthday gift. If you remember from years past, I always give myself some big birthday gift—some permission to move more and more into who I truly am. And this year, I decided to give myself the gift of owning my power.
Owning that I’m incredibly happy. Owning that I’m undeniably successful. Owning that I’m loved beyond all measure. Owning that I really am that intuitive. Owning that my work is some of the most life-changing I’ve ever experienced. Owning that I’m unbelievably intelligent. Owning that I’m a powerfully sexual being. Owning that I’m deeply, deeply spiritual. Owning I have all the power I’ll ever need to change the world inside of me.
Without guilt. Without shame. Without fears of feeling conceited. Because none of it is ego-based judgment. It’s just fact. That’s who I truly am.
And here’s the thing about owning your power. The second you do it, you automatically give others permission to do it too. There’s this inherent belief in it all: That you can do it too. I’m not this crazy superhero. I’m not some all-knowing being. I’m just a human. I’m just trying to figure my shit out. I’m just honoring my intuition, always choosing love, and being the best damn person I know how to be.
And I’m not keeping my head up in the clouds. I’m not meditating up to somewhere that no one else can get to. I’m bringing it down. To Earth. To me. To reality. And I’m just living out my life as best as possible.
Because it’s accessible. We all have access to all of it. In our own way. Through our own power. We can all be incredibly happy and undeniably successful and loved beyond all measure and everything else. We can all give ourselves permission to step into and own that power.
We can all be the people we’ve always said we were meant to be. And it’s not too late. It’s never too late. No matter how many mistakes you think you’ve made or how old or young you think you are, know that it’s perfect. It’s always perfect. Because it’s who you are. And nothing about you is too much of anything. You’re just right the way you are.
And you have access any time you want it. You can be whoever you want to be.
If an everyday guy like me can transform my life, access my gifts, and feel this happy every single day, then it’s possible for you too. You just have to decide to give yourself permission.
And then own it. Own just how fabulous, incredible, intelligent, intuitive, wise, and loved you really are.
Because you, my friend, were born to change the world.