What Happened When My Mom Decided to Become My Student

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Yesterday, I had the amazing experience of being interviewed by a recent Sacred Circle journeyer (which will be out later this month, so stay tuned).

What I didn’t know—or maybe didn’t remember—when we get on the call, was that the first time she had ever interacted with Sacred Circle material, she had a Post-It taped over her camera. She couldn’t be seen. This was back in October.

Now, barely six months later, she’s hosting her own summit and interviewing mentors and experts from all over the world. When she presenced that for me during the interview, it nearly took my breath away. Because it wasn’t so long ago that she couldn’t even let herself be seen with a small, intimate group. And now she’s transforming lives with her work. I couldn’t be more proud of her—and humbled.

This isn’t the first time I’ve heard a story like this from the Circle, but it is one that touched my heart deeply. Both because it’s absolutely phenomenal and inspiring for me, and because it reminds me of another story that’s near and dear to my heart.

You might not know that my mom is a (repeat) journeyer in the Sacred Circle. She’s been through it four times now, I believe, over the last few years. I think she originally signed up to just figure out what I do. She was curious about how I spend my days and thought she could use a little transformation.

I remember on the first call, she called me after to say she was confused because somebody said they had a “download,” and my mom couldn’t figure out where I had sent the file to download.

The entire first Circle experience, she kept her camera off. She didn’t speak up at all. And she felt overwhelmed by all of the material—material, she told herself, she wasn’t intellectual enough to understand.

It’s strange to say that now. It’s hard to even remember back to that point a few years ago. Because she’s not that person anymore. She’s proud and confident. Over the last few years, I’ve watched her set boundaries where she never could before. I’ve watched her stand up for herself. I’ve watched her try things way out of her comfort zone. I’ve watched her change her relationship with her body, start exercising regularly, and nearly eliminate chronic pain from an autoimmune disease.

Most shockingly—at least for me—I’ve watched her step into new business ventures and actually make live videos to promote them. All the time now, I see her posting live videos and inspiring people all over the world with her work. It’s hard to remember back to the time when she couldn’t even turn on her camera. Or when she thought she wasn’t smart enough to understand the work.

I’m proud of my mom. I couldn’t be prouder of her. Because she’s so much more of who she’s always been. Just letting it shine for the world to say.

And what’s maybe the biggest testament to her transformation isn’t just the fact that everyone around her is asking what she’s doing to change her life; it’s the fact that my dad was so inspired by her magic that he ended up leaving his job of almost 20 years to do new work that he loves.

So, yesterday, when my interviewer told me that she couldn’t even turn on her camera before this work, and now—just six months later—she’s hosting a massive summit, it nearly took my breath away. Because I’m so proud of her too. And because I started reflecting on so many journeys with this work—but, mostly, my mom’s.

I’m grateful. I’m grateful that I get to witness her transformation. I’m grateful I get to do this work in the first place. And I’m really grateful that I get to be closer to my mom in a new way through journeying through this work together.

Anyone who’s Circled with us together can tell you that there isn’t a hint that we’re related—except for the same last name. Not because we actively try to hide it. But because that’s the work. I always show up one way in the work, to create a safe space for all of our Circlers. And it allows them to show up entirely differently. More vulnerably and authentically than they show up maybe anyway else.

It’s such a fascinating dynamic to get to know my mom in this way. Where we can both show up so vulnerably. And where we’re both so dedicated to the work.

When I first started my business, my parents were—understandably—afraid. They thought I was making a huge mistake. I was selling my shares as owner of a very successful PR agency to do something sort of hippie. It didn’t make any sense.

Last week, I had a conversation with my mom, and she said, “I can’t even imagine you doing anything else. This is the most important work you could be doing in the world.”

And I sit with that gratitude and validation today. I’d like to say I don’t need it, but there’s something really special about your family seeing the work that you put out into the world—especially when it feels like a full expression of all of who you are.

The best part of my job is to get to witness people’s transformations. It goes a hell of a lot deeper than just some more money or new relationships or book deals (although Circlers are always really happy at those results). But it’s simply about unfolding into more of who you are.

And getting to watch a person blossom into themselves before your eyes is shocking. It’s definitely the best part of my job.

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